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INTIMACY IS UNAFRiCAN??????

P.D.A. : public display of affection 
   Growing as children in Nigeria , we learnt that P.D.A (kissing affectionately or just being intimate in public) was a bad thing, a sin in fact , that intimacy itself was something to be hidden , done in the bedroom away from the prying eyes 👀 of the public. Being intimate in public was something only the " bad boys " and " bad girls " did. We were all supposed to pretend people did not kiss or have sex , even talking about it made you bad. You know what people were not ashamed to do in public though FIGHT( that's for another time). 
Our parents were careful not to be too intimate in front of their children so they would not spoil us.  SPOILT : a term used to describe a child who knew what a kiss was and that adults slept with each other. I like many African children born before the millennia and the early 2ks have not seen their parents kiss, not because they don't kiss but because as I said they did not want to spoil…

BLACK BEAUTY

BLACK BEAUTY
  So "black beauty". I'm not one to talk on the topic of race or racism because I feel sometimes it's overrated, I feel sometimes Africans/blacks take it too seriously, this isn't really a discussion of racism as it is a discussion of race as both parties (black and white ) are guilty of this. 

So I was online browsing and I was looking at some pictures when I saw this picture. Normally I would see something like this and not really be interested, but for some reason I saw this picture today and I thought how wrong. It was a magazine cover ,on it there was a black woman and by her side it said "BLACK BEAUTY". 
This phrase although very generic really is wrong. Now some people would get angry without reading the whole post. 
What I mean , have you ever seen a magazine with a with a white woman on it captioned "WHITE BEAUTY"? We use the phrase like OMG there actually is a beautiful black person, like just get closer and you will see tha…

CAFÉ MYSTÈRE

CAFÉ MYSTÈRE !




It was a cold Sunday afternoon, I had decided to go for a walk when I stumbled upon a new cafe that just opened around the corner, CAFÉ MYSTÈRE the sign said in bold red letters, intriguing I thought to myself what a weird name for a cafe.I decided to pop in order an espresso and just sit there for some minutes.
It was quite small but elegant , you know one of those places where you get a tiny cup of coffee for $10 dollars. As soon as I walked in I knew I was only ordering coffee. It had a few tables , a small couch and two counters (one by the window) I took a seat at one of the tables close to the wall. I guess the best thing about the place was that they had wifi.
I took out my laptop and placed it on the table. Oh did I forget to say , I am a writer , I had been having a hard time coming up with an idea for a new book, that was why I decided to take a walk on a COLD Sunday afternoon I'm not mental.
My espresso came and that was the moment they walked in , four of …

Liebster Awards

Woo!!!!!!, woooo!!!!!!!!. So I was nominated for a LIEBSTER award by http://www.kazinidaily.com/. Thank You for the nomination.
This award is given to new and upcoming bloggers with less than 200 blog followers, it is  a great way to discover new blogs and get to know other bloggers, promoting and supporting upcoming blogs.
The rules are:
You must link the person’s blog who nominated you for the award.
Answer the 11 questions given by the person who nominated you.
Pick an additional 5-11 people to nominate with UNDER 200 blog followers.
You cannot nominate the blogger who nominated you.
You must inform the nominees that have been nominated.

Kazini's questions

1. What do you like most about your blog ?
I guess the fact that it is simply what goes on in my head.

2.What do you hate most about it?
It has so little
3. Which of your posts had the highest stats? Why do you think this was so? My Women's Day post. I think that's probably because many people (men) were kinda thinking about it …

THE BLACK NOD

Black Africans in foreign countries 

I was reading Americana recently and I saw something really interesting "the black nod". You know the nod u give when you see an African on the road , I do it , sometimes I even get mad when someone sees me and doesn't nod or acknowledge my nod. Why do we do this?. Really I think it gives us a sense of unity and togetherness, it's like yeah dude I see you and you could see someone a hundred times on the street and never say anything but nod or ask "how far nah"? a question which is never answered with a fine or cool or good but with the same question , the most intimate we get is the handshake with the finger snap at the end. These little things we do kind of says no matter where we came from in Africa we've got each other's backs here , and we've got to stick up for each other, it's a good sentiment but I need someone to answer my greeting.

Who am I ?????

WHO AM I ?
 Me: hey how u doin
 Friend: I am gud u know
 Me: no I don't , haven't seen you in a while , what have you been up to.
 Friend: oh, nothing , just been trying to figure out stuff.
 Me: okay what stuff , I hope your fine.
 Friend:. I am fine , just wanted to find myself, you know , just trying to figure out "WHO I AM". 
 Me:.................................

"Find myself", " figure out who I really am". I don't understand these statements. This concept of figuring who you are doesn't even make sense to me, okay just one question, after you've gone on this quest , what do you find out ? Who are you?...  And one more question , what do you really do on this quest, how do you find you???????????
(I would really like some one who has done this to answer)..

Why do you have to be one person, people say "I need to find out who I am and love me for me".  Is it hard to love you as many different people? Why do you have to make yourself…

MY FIRST POST

MY FIRST POST !!!!!!!
Wow ! I feel like I should be really nervous putting this up, but really I'm laying awkwardly on my bed writing this. I put the exclamation marks after "my first post" to in a way make myself feel more excited.
  The idea of blogging has always been quite funny to me. I had always thought that a person would have to be reeeeaally conceited or egocentric to sit and decide to start blogging(like what do you think you know) .That thing that makes you want to just take pictures, write stuff(sometimes boring) , make videos etc, and just put them online and begin to solicit for readers ,is a thing I have not quite understood. I've always thought about what bloggers do after a post, I mean do they wait at their laptops, tablets, phones like a man whose wife is in delivery, and when you see a comment do you feel good, validated,heard ????. Anyway I guess I'll know now,lol
I recently started actually paying attention to blogs and I realised they are…